For Hump day, I decided to write about kissing. As a writer, wife and woman, this is a topic of some interest to me.
I’ve noticed that there is a distinct difference across people in what we consider a good kiss. If you ask most of the guys I know about what constitutes a good kiss, half the time they’ll start talking about technique: tongue or no tongue, how much pressure and so on. Some will talk about how hot the girl may or may not be, how big her lips and some will go so far as to ask what of kissing—which I consider a very smart question.
By contrast I hate to read, listen to or talk about technique. It’s kind of porno-ish and it doesn’t matter so much. To me, kissing is all about what’s going on in your head at the time. The difference between kissing a real human being and my hand is what I’m thinking at the time.
I talk to my husband about this all the time. A kiss is about everything that’s happened over the last few hours, maybe the last few days. It’s about whether I feel cherished. The pressure of lips can be intensely pleasurable if it means something and it should mean something. Otherwise, it’s just pressure.
If I read a book that says something like they kissed with no lead up, I’d skip that part and the sex that comes afterwards too because I can’t connect. If it keeps happening, I’ll give the book away to a friend or the local book swap. Life is not that much different. For a kiss to be good, I have to connect. We have to feel good about the lead up and what it means.
How about you? What do you think constitutes a good kiss?